Being
Directive!! or Dominating??
It was today’s morning when I got into metro station. A
pretty lady asked me “ Will this metro go to Kalka Ji”. “Yes”, I said. I had
draped my face with scarf. I opened it and she said after looking at me “She
is beautiful”. I asked “who she”? You, she replied. Ohh! I did not get why she
said “she is beautiful” instead of “you are beautiful”. But I responded with
thanks and smile to her compliment. She was a beautiful lady , she had
beautiful eyes but had dark circles all beneath and above her eyes. She started
making a conversation.
She --What do you
do?
I -- I am doing job .
She --
where ?
I -- Noida.
She – Ohkay, what is
your qualification?
I – I am an
engineering graduate from YMCA University.
She – Ohkay
I – I also do
modeling part time , just as a hobby.
She – I also wanted
to do modeling, but then there happened some tragedy in my life and I could not do anything.
She then showed me few of her
pictures. She was looking nice in the pictures .I wont say that it was a model
type pic but she looked beautiful and I said her so ,that she looked beautiful
in the pics. She then opened up a bit and began to talk more about her life. “My husband expelled me out of his
house 13 years ago. I found out that he was cheating on me and when he got a
hint of this he started making fuss of things and finally barred me to enter
his house. His brother, sister and mother all went against me. No one stood
there for me and I was pushed out of the house”. I was astonished by the story
so far! I couldn't digest the fact how could a person divorce her wife with
two grown up children , that too just because of an affair. Why the hell did
you get married to that girl then? Why did you spoilt her life if you could
have avoided it? Thoughts like these keep coming to my mind. She had two
children . One boy and a girl. Both were kept with the father and mother was
not allowed to meet her children. I seriously can’t take these things! I was
furious , very furious. “Why the hell don’t you take the help of Women
helpline, police or some Mahila sanghathan. They are always like there for
you”. She of course had tried her luck everywhere but bad luck followed her where ever she would go.
Her husband is a businessman of Faridabad and deals in some disposables
business. Businessman , hence Money tree people. Her husband bribed every
department according to the lady and every department refused to help her. I
felt very sad for her. “Why don’t you file an F.I.R. against them, why don’t
you ask for compensation? Don’t let that bastard go away like that. Use social
media , do some thing but don’t just sit like an Abla Naari. You should take a
stand and gain some self confidence. You are too beautiful to suffer all this", I
went on saying such things to her. I personally wanted to kill the man at that
moment and mentally I did that successfully. I just cant understand this concept of treating your lady like
furniture. You don’t like it, just throw it away and get a new one. I know all
men are not the same ( well I hope so) . But there is something that gets into
a man’s head after getting married. They kind of want to take charge of
everything and they don’t seem to care about person’s opinions or life. I fail
to understand it Why does it happen. Its good to take charge of some one’s
life. I may be wrong and I so wish to be wrong here in this case. But people need to get this into their head that there is certain difference between BEING DIRECTIVE AND BEING
DOMINATING.
We kept on talking till we
reached Kalka Ji. Meanwhile, she also told me that she wants to work now and I
motivated her to do so. We exchanged numbers. I promised to help her in what
ever manner I could do. She smiled and I was relieved a bit to see her smile.
Metro stopped at Kalka Ji , she
got up. I got up too. I hugged her tight ,kissed her and said “gear up girl,
give it back to that fat ass and I am always there for you. You have all the
right to be happy and cheerful” She said she was happy to meet me and I was
happy to hear that. I hope the girl gets justice and that bastard gets a lesson
for life! People having money feel like they can rule the world and do whatever
with whosoever. I feel scared after seeing such things happening so frequently
and my disbelief on marriage gets even
stronger J
Don’t get married it’s a trap!
Well incase you are wondering who
is this SHE? Her name was Ritu, just another girl with unsuccessful marriage.
And that does not matter, what matters is that just the name is different but
the deed is same everywhere. This Mother’s day has no significance for her.
This is what that makes it even worse. A lady can live without her partner but
without her children , its almost like tearing her apart.
Hope she gets some reason to be happy now! Bless her!
Disclaimer :- Please do not take any thing too personally. I wrote what I felt or what she felt. Any blog ever will not do the justice to the pain I saw in her eyes . If you are happily married, may be you are lucky or may be those who are not happy with their married lives are unlucky! The crux is just that don't let a bad incident/experience ruin your whole life. DO WHATEVER MAKES YOU HAPPY! Coz ultimately every one is doing so! :) :)
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