Being Directive!! or Being Dominating??

                                 Being Directive!! or Dominating??

It was today’s morning when I got into metro station. A pretty lady asked me “ Will this metro go to Kalka Ji”. “Yes”, I said. I had draped my face with scarf. I opened it and she said after looking at me “She is beautiful”. I asked “who she”? You, she replied. Ohh! I did not get why she said “she is beautiful” instead of “you are beautiful”. But I responded with thanks and smile to her compliment. She was a beautiful lady , she had beautiful eyes but had dark circles all beneath and above her eyes. She started making a conversation.

  She --What do you do?

  I     -- I am doing job .

 She  --  where ?

 I --  Noida.

 She – Ohkay, what is your qualification?

 I – I am an engineering graduate from YMCA University.

 She – Ohkay

 I – I also do modeling part time , just as a hobby.

 She – I also wanted to do modeling, but then there happened some tragedy in my life  and I could not do anything.

She then showed me few of her pictures. She was looking nice in the pictures .I wont say that it was a model type pic but she looked beautiful and I said her so ,that she looked beautiful in the pics. She then opened up a bit and began to talk more about  her life. “My husband expelled me out of his house 13 years ago. I found out that he was cheating on me and when he got a hint of this he started making fuss of things and finally barred me to enter his house. His brother, sister and mother all went against me. No one stood there for me and I was pushed out of the house”. I was astonished by the story so far! I couldn't digest the fact how could a person divorce her wife with two grown up children , that too just because of an affair. Why the hell did you get married to that girl then? Why did you spoilt her life if you could have avoided it? Thoughts like these keep coming to my mind. She had two children . One boy and a girl. Both were kept with the father and mother was not allowed to meet her children. I seriously can’t take these things! I was furious , very furious. “Why the hell don’t you take the help of Women helpline, police or some Mahila sanghathan. They are always like there for you”. She of course had tried her luck everywhere but  bad luck followed her where ever she would go. Her husband is a businessman of Faridabad and deals in some disposables business. Businessman , hence Money tree people. Her husband bribed every department according to the lady and every department refused to help her. I felt very sad for her. “Why don’t you file an F.I.R. against them, why don’t you ask for compensation? Don’t let that bastard go away like that. Use social media , do some thing but don’t just sit like an Abla Naari. You should take a stand and gain some self confidence. You are too beautiful to suffer all this", I went on saying such things to her. I personally wanted to kill the man at that moment and mentally I did that successfully. I just cant understand this concept of treating your lady like furniture. You don’t like it, just throw it away and get a new one. I know all men are not the same ( well I hope so) . But there is something that gets into a man’s head after getting married. They kind of want to take charge of everything and they don’t seem to care about person’s opinions or life. I fail to understand it Why does it happen. Its good to take charge of some one’s life. I may be wrong and I so wish to be wrong here in this case. But people need to get this into their head that there is certain difference between BEING DIRECTIVE AND BEING DOMINATING.

 We kept on talking till we reached Kalka Ji. Meanwhile, she also told me that she wants to work now and I motivated her to do so. We exchanged numbers. I promised to help her in what ever manner I could do. She smiled and I was relieved a bit to see her smile.

Metro stopped at Kalka Ji , she got up. I got up too. I hugged her tight ,kissed her and said “gear up girl, give it back to that fat ass and I am always there for you. You have all the right to be happy and cheerful” She said she was happy to meet me and I was happy to hear that. I hope the girl gets justice and that bastard gets a lesson for life! People having money feel like they can rule the world and do whatever with whosoever. I feel scared after seeing such things happening so frequently and my disbelief  on marriage gets even stronger J Don’t get married it’s a trap!

 Well incase you are wondering who is this SHE? Her name was Ritu, just another girl with unsuccessful marriage. And that does not matter, what matters is that just the name is different but the deed is same everywhere. This Mother’s day has no significance for her. This is what that makes it even worse. A lady can live without her partner but without her children , its almost like tearing her apart.

  Hope she gets some reason to be happy now! Bless her!

Disclaimer :- Please do not take any thing too personally. I wrote what I felt or what she felt. Any blog ever will not do the justice to the pain I saw in her eyes . If you are happily married, may be you are lucky or may be those who are not happy with their married lives are unlucky! The crux is just that don't let a bad incident/experience ruin your whole life. DO WHATEVER MAKES YOU HAPPY! Coz ultimately every one is doing so! :) :)

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Difference between what we DO and what we WANT to DO.

I won't ask "Ever felt how is it like to fail interviews? or more precisely to get REJECTED , not just once but again and again." We all face that phase at some time in our lives. But ever noticed WHY?? . If I just talk about myself , I know I am not doing what I want , what I am supposed to , what i was made for. And now you will say there is nothing so special about it. There  are thousands and thousands of people doing exactly the same what I am doing ,that is Just  going on what they have got once. Then for those thousands of persons out there and for I too. Aren't we afraid to try out what we always wanted? Are not we too lazy to get out of our comfort zone? Aren't we too much scared to take small risks for our long lives? And the answer to every question above is YES! of course we are very much afraid to step out of what we are trapped in currently. We just want things to get better with time. It hardly matters what we are doing and what means what ever.
Ever Listened to the success stories of Big Bollywood celebrities. They all have this things embedded in their stories that they have slept on railway platforms , spent nights without shelter and what not!
And ever wondered how did they manage to do all this?? Because they had no fear of failing or they just had nothing to loose. They just knew what they wanted to achieve and just worked for it. Put their lives on Stake in achieving what they actually wanted. Unlike me or you (if there is someone out there like me ).
What I feel is that the middle class is the most "stuck with some thing" class. They are not rich enough to fulfil all their aspirations,dreams  and they just don't have the bandwidth to risk what meagre they have. Most successful persons either belong to High class or a low class. By this statement I am not quoting that Middle class remains unsuccessful, I am talking in terms of getting your dreams fulfilled. I have realised this thing that to make your life large , you actually need to get out of what we call comfort zone. If I talk about my myself , music is what gives me happiness , I always wanted to learn classical music but then again since I belong to a middle class family , all I could do was get best education. No I am not complaining about my family , they did the best they could do for me. But its about an individuals initiative I am engineer but I am just not satisfied with what ever I am doing. It does not make me happy. When you do what you love , what you have always dreamt of doing , it never bores you , it just leaves you refreshed even at the end of the day.
It gives you some other level of satisfaction. Money does not matter always. Its the life you wanted. The dream you always wanted to be a reality. Going back to from where I started , Failing interviews hurt but it should not because you never wanted to do what you were being interviewed for. What hurts is the thought : "Had I paid this much attention to my Dream , my interests , I would be at some other place" Just breathe and GET SET GO!
And Yes the only difference between what we do and what we want to do is HAPPINESS

P.S. It took more than two or three years to start writing a blog . Yes because I was so occupied with things that did not led me anywhere close to my dream.